Timid and shy thinking it’s all about the guy? It is time to put that thinking to rest, especially when we are talking about a fuckbuddy. What is the point of a fuckbuddy after all? It’s to get yours without any strings attached, a quid pro quo, a “I scratch your back and you scratch mine.” This is the mentality you should have while entering into one of these relationships.
You aren’t just in the bedroom to please a man. There is a reason why human beings have sex for other reasons rather than just bumping uglies whenever you want to procreate – it feels good! It SHOULD feel good and you should not shy away from asking for what you need in order to push yourself over the edge. As Portia said in Julius Caesar, “Am I your self but, as it were, in sort of limitation, to keep with you at meals, comfort your bed, and talk to you sometimes?”
The year is 2019 folks and women are allowed to fulfill their needs just as much as men. We aren’t here to cook for them and make sure that they are sexually satisfied prior to sending them off to sleep. it is not our job to please them and only them. It is our job to please ourselves and they should want to help out as well! It is time to step into the new world ladies, where our pleasure is just as important as theirs.
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Now, this may seem like an obvious one, but many fuckbuddies don’t want to go there. Maybe they aren’t as comfortable with one another as they would like to be, maybe they are embarrassed about having certain desires or maybe they were taught that sex was not to be talked about or attempted until marriage. Think about Carrie’s mom and her “dirty pillows.” Sure, that may have been a little more intense than what was said to you at home, but we still think that it applies. After all, when you are growing up any sex talk with your parents feel like the end of the world, but guess what?
You’re an adult now, and if you feel ready and comfortable enough to fuck somebody and label them as your fuckbuddy, you should surely feel comfortable enough talking to them about your likes and dislikes. Own that sexy part of yourselves and leave the timid and shy part of yourself at home. This will benefit all parties involved. Not only will you be feeling more satisfied after a throw in the sheets, your partner will appreciate the fact that he now knows exactly what to do in order to get you there. After all, men want to be able to please you.
Ladies, getting comfortable SO IMPORTANT. Do not feel rushed, because nobody can get there when they think about a clock ticking. If you do feel rushed by your partner, let them know. Nine times out of ten it is all in your head and they are actually enjoying doing what they are doing. If they aren’t enjoying it and want it all to be about them, it is time to dump their ass anyway.
Aside from this, if there is any part of your body that you feel uncomfortable with or want to cover up, remember….you are giving your naked body over to a man. Trust us, he is just happy you are there and he is NOT looking at all of your “imperfections” and criticizing your body the way that you do. However, you are in charge of your body and you are allowed to cover up anything that you don’t want your fuckbuddy to see. If you want to wear a bra, more power to you. If you want to spread out and reveal everything, go for it! And don’t forget that you can move them into place and cheer them on when they hit that perfect spot. Get yours.
Try Something New
Go for it! Try anal, try a threesome, try a foursome, try fucking in public, try incorporating toys into the bedroom, try foreplay, try dressing up, try those acrobatic-like moves you have seen but have been too afraid to try for fear of looking silly. Like we said, you are allowed to express your desires to your fuck buddy. If there is something that you have always wanted to try, why not do it with someone you see on a regular, or semi-regular basis, especially since you have no emotional ties? The worst that happens is you get embarrassed and don’t want to see the guy again. Onto the next! There are plenty of dicks on the land.